Calm the Anxiety From Putting Yourself Last
For adults ready to step away from people-pleasing, quiet self-doubt, and begin loosening the hold of old family patterns.
Providing online therapy in Louisiana and Delaware.
A brief call to share what's on your mind and discuss next steps.
Does your mind ever feel like it never takes a break?
Are you exhausted from keeping everyone else happy, quietly wondering when it gets to be your turn?
Many of my clients describe living two lives—calm and capable on the outside, but anxious, overwhelmed, and second-guessing everything on the inside.
For some, anxiety shows up as constant overthinking. For others, it’s the tightness in your chest when you try to say no, the restless nights replaying conversations, or the guilt that creeps in any time you put your own needs first.
You might not connect it yet, but these patterns often begin in families where your feelings weren’t fully heard, your needs came second, or you were expected to keep the peace. Living this way is draining—not only on your mind, but on your body and relationships too.
How Anxiety and People-Pleasing Patterns Can Show Up
Common Thoughts You May Have:
“I feel guilty every time I put myself first.”
“I wish I could make a decision without going back and forth a hundred times.”
“I’m so tired of feeling like I have to manage everyone’s emotions.”
These struggles can look like:
Worrying about disappointing others or “making the wrong choice.”
Saying yes when you want to say no—then feeling resentful or drained.
Feeling responsible for everyone’s emotions and moods.
Avoiding situations because the thought of conflict feels overwhelming.
Struggling to relax or enjoy the moment because you’re bracing for what could go wrong.
Feeling physically worn down from stress—tense shoulders, headaches, trouble sleeping.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many people experience these patterns—and with the right support, meaningful shifts can happen.
What Makes My Approach Different
With an attentive, grounded approach, I take time to understand your story and offer tools you can put into practice between sessions. Drawing on relational and trauma-informed methods, we’ll address the deeper layers of anxiety and people-pleasing patterns so changes can emerge in a way that feels steady, safe, and in tune with your pace.
The Shifts You May Notice Over Time
As we work together, you may begin to:
Recognize the patterns that feed your anxiety and people-pleasing.
Practice tools to help your mind and body settle during stressful moments.
Feel more comfortable setting boundaries in ways that align with your values.
Make decisions with less second-guessing and more self-trust.
Reconnect with your own voice, priorities, and sense of self.
Imagine…
Having a space where you can explore what’s been weighing on you without pressure to “fix” it overnight.
This isn’t about becoming someone completely different, it’s about uncovering and strengthening what’s already within you.
Take the First Step
You’ve carried this for a long time, but you don’t have to keep navigating it on your own.
In our free 20-minute consultation, we’ll talk about what’s been on your mind, explore how these patterns began, and I’ll share one small, practical tool you can start using right away.
A brighter, calmer future could be ahead and if you’re ready, we can take the first step together.
Let’s talk through with what’s been weighing on you and explore ways to move forward.
Welcome!
As a licensed clinical social worker, I work with adults whose anxiety is often tangled up with people-pleasing, self-doubt, and the weight of old family patterns. If you’ve spent years managing everyone else’s needs while your own take a back seat, you’re not alone—and you don’t have to keep doing it the same way.
My approach blends evidence-based tools like mindfulness and cognitive-behavioral techniques with a relational focus to uncover the deeper roots of what’s driving your stress and overwhelm. Together, we’ll develop practical strategies—like learning how to pause before automatically saying “yes,” calming your body’s stress response, and making decisions with more self-trust—so you can begin to feel more grounded and in charge of your choices.
If you’re curious about how I work and whether it might be a fit for you, I invite you to learn more
Your Session, Your Space, Your Pace
Your sessions are designed so you can get the support you need without adding extra stress to your day. All appointments are held online through a HIPAA-compliant platform, protecting your privacy and confidentiality.
No commuting, no rushing across town, no sitting in a waiting room. Whether you join from the comfort of your home, a quiet spot at work, or any private space where you feel at ease, you can focus fully on our work together—without the extra strain.
Meeting online also means you can explore sensitive topics—like family dynamics, boundaries, or saying no—where you already feel safe and grounded.